Let’s smack some ass this year! That is, smack the year’s ass, not yours. Unless you’re into that kind of thing. In which case, you have my email address.
Seriously. With so many new years resolutions posts and “what’s in store for this year” articles, I’m about ready to pull our hair out. Yes. Both mine AND yours. And I just got mine coloured ‘yo! That shit isn’t cheap.
Look, I get it. We all want to be more successful and beautiful and fit and up and at ’em this year. Totally on board with all of that. Let’s make it happen. But let’s do it in a way that maybe not a lot of us have talked about yet. Let’s do it, by doing nothing.
Uh, what? Yep. This is my anti-resolution resolution. And with it, we’re going to kick ass and take names!
Put simply: Fuck new years resolutions. They don’t work. They’re mostly a semi-permanent, cookie-bourbon-overload inspired collection of “commitments” that wane as the holiday hangover does. Right? That’s why they fail so often. It isn’t that you aren’t motivated or clever or fabulous enough to make real change this year, it’s that it’s a promise built on a premise without foundation.
A New (better) Premise
So instead, let’s make a resolution to not resolve. Let’s decide to do nothing with new years resolutions. Let’s make a choice, instead, to choose a different premise to work from. One that works. One that gets shit done. One that sees a return on all your hard work – whatever that return and hard work looks like to you.
Money. Fitness. Friendship. Community. Brand awareness. Professional opportunities. Taking time for yourself. Owning your choices and your life. Working for your self. Working for somebody else. Making life work for you. Whatever it is – you can do it with this premise. What premise? I’m glad you asked.
Three little words (no, not those 3 little words*): Clarity. Purpose. Intention.
I’m totally piggy-backing off Chris Brogan here but let’s run with it.
Why does this premise work?
This premise means I consciously choose to be present. To be clear on what I want, appreciate, love and need. To move with purpose. To be in the moment. To make the most of it. To be intentional with everything that I do. Shit has an equal and opposite reaction to every action right? Is that how the physics goes? Well then I want that reaction to be the most nurturing, delicious and mother efing hardcore positive that it can be.
In short, I want real success based on how I define it and the lifestyle that I dream of. I’m willing to bet you do too. Right?
Every thing I do – the words that I use to express myself, my decision to get out of bed at 6am so I’m done work by 1pm and thus have more time for my food blog and to spend with myself and my friends, my ability to get the kind of clients I want to work with, all of it – stems from THIS premise.
Clarity. Purpose. Intention.
If I build promises like wanting to lose
10 20 pounds, or to double my net income, or to write in my journal (yet again) or to travel more this year on a false premise – namely one built on cookie-bourbon-overload – my success will be false. Short-lived. A failure.
You are not a failure. You deserve a better – more solid – foundation. A better premise. A better starting point. One that directs all your actions. If it doesn’t come from this place, it doesn’t come.
Clarity. Purpose. Intention.
Sure, it takes hard work.
Just like losing the excess poundage, increasing your revenue, writing in the journal on a daily basis and seeing the world. If you want these things, there is no way to avoid using a little elbow grease.
The difference – the thing that’s going to make you be more awesome than you already are this year (and you’re pretty bloody awesome), is that we’re starting from somewhere real.
From 3 words – 3 spaces – that are actually useful. Instead of cookie crumbs and a (bad-ass) whiskey hangover.
Now here’s the secret to make my premise
– really work –
If my 3 little words don’t ring true, choose your own. Write them down. Put them somewhere where you’ll see them every single day. And then execute based on those 3 words.
This is all you my friend – you’ve got this. This is YOUR year to be great.
►►Now tell me in the comments below OR shoot me an email:
- What 3 little words (mine or yours) are you going to premise your life on this year? What’s your mantra? Your go to? Your get it done and be awesome words?
- Based on those words, what’s your promise to yourself? Can you set a hard goal or anti-resolution based on them? How will you get it done?
Happy New Year my friends, my community, my partners in crime!
*Don’t let me misguide you into thinking I wasn’t going to say the other 3 little words – I got mad love for you baby!